Saturday, November 22, 2025

Devotionals from my Bible app: Power, Love, and Discipline (2 Timothy 1:7)



For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind. 2 Timothy 1:7, NKJV

Brief note before sharing the devotional: certain translations say a “sound mind” (like the above); others say “discipline” or “self-control” (like the below). Take your pick which one you believe God is highlighting to you more:

For God has not given us a spirit of timidity, but of power and love and discipline. 2 Timothy 1:7, New American Standard Bible

for God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control. 2 Timothy 1:7, English Standard Version


Power, Love, and Discipline


One of the miracles of salvation is that when we have faith in Christ, God not only saves us—He also gives us the power to live according to His will. Your life in Christ is one that is empowered by the Holy Spirit living within you.


This is a great gift, but a big shift. It often takes time to change how we think and act. We may have bad habits that take hard work to correct, or patterns of thought that are challenging to break.


Thankfully, God promises to be with us and to empower us to make these changes in our life. When Paul is writing to his mentee Timothy, he encourages him to continue to develop the gift that God has given to him. While we are saved in an instant, it takes a lifetime to develop and work out what God is doing inside of us.


Paul reminds Timothy that God’s Spirit does not give us fear or cowardice. Those things are tools of the devil who is trying to keep us from God. But the Spirit of God empowers us with confidence in Him. He gives us the power to live out the purposes of God in our life. This power is one that we need to continually remember as we face challenges.


The Spirit of God also empowers us to love others. It can be difficult to love people, especially those who may have hurt us. But God promises to give us His power and love so that we can be a light to everyone around us.


God’s Spirit also empowers us with self-discipline. We won’t experience spiritual change and growth if we don’t train and practice—but that takes time, dedication, and endurance. We need to be consistent in doing the things that God asks us to do, including reading God’s Word and talking to Him. Thankfully, when we belong to God, He helps us. He gives us the strength, stamina, and soundness of mind to build habits that help us become more like Him.


So take some time today to talk with God. Ask Him to empower you by His Spirit toward confidence, love, and self-discipline. Consider how God is leading you to change the way you live. As you do that, remember that God doesn’t give us fear. He fills us with love because He wants us to experience a confident relationship with Him.



Note after sharing the devotional: Dovetailing off my last devotional post, this is part of what faith in action looks like in terms of applying the verses, as follows:

I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. Philippians 4:13, NKJV

But Jesus looked at them and said to them, “With men this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.” Matthew 19:26, NKJV

With the below verse answering the question of “how”:

For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind. 2 Timothy 1:7, NKJV

Faith is believing that God indeed didn’t give us a spirit of fear, and believing that He instead gave us a spirit of power, a spirit of love, and a spirit of a sound mind.

Just now - as I was writing the words, “a spirit of love,” I believe I felt the Lord download to me the interpretation of it. It has to do with loving others with God’s love, and not with our own fleshly love. Sure, with many people it is indeed easy to love from our flesh, because 1.) we get along, 2.) we enjoy common interests together, 3.) maybe there’s even a present (or historical) aspect of a relationship where we shared a memorable moment (a road trip, a concert, or even a situation where we both narrowly escaped something bad and were together in it), or even 4.) when there’s a romantic interest. (I realize this list isn’t exhaustive, but I’m hoping that you, the reader, get the idea of what I’m trying to say.) The point is, because God is love and has infinite love, in the same way that He is infinite strength and we can rely on that, we can do the same with love. Additionally, because love is a choice and not a feeling, oftentimes the way love proves itself is through actions.

In my therapy years, I was privileged to also be part of a 12-step recovery group as a component to my healing.

[Before I continue, I recognize that some of you may not think too highly of these types of groups. My simple stance is that while I don’t believe this should replace church (and many such groups and individuals have done exactly that!), I believe it can be a valuable and powerful tool, if used well. I have seen, time and time again, that simply lecturing a person on the truth does not change them. To wit, the below Bible verse:

Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I have become sounding brass or a clanging cymbal. And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. 1 Corinthians 13:1-2, NKJV

It’s worth noting that the author of the above passage, Apostle Paul, is widely considered to be the second-greatest champion of the Christian faith (after Jesus, of course). Much of our New Testament formation is based on Paul’s letters, in which he drove home the points about the importance of faith and truth, and about not letting the flesh win over the battle with the Spirit of God in all true believers. The true notion of “sin is sin” I believe is most prominently spelled out in Paul’s letters, although it is also scattered across all Scripture. The reason I hone in on this is because even Paul recognized that doing all the things he pushed for in all his letters (faith, truth, righteousness, holiness, etc) amounts to absolutely nothing if you don’t also have the love of God in your hearts. I am a firm believer that therapy and 12-step recovery can work well if you also have the component of the true Christian faith, in the very same exact way that the US Constitution works if its nation’s people are of the same true faith. If you don’t have Christ, the US Constitution doesn’t work. If you don’t have Christ, then therapy and 12-step recovery don’t work, either. But if you do have Christ, then a great many tools and resources have great potential to work well. As such, I am firmly pro-therapy and pro-recovery, because I saw how God used it to bring me out of darkness into His marvelous light on a great many practical levels.]

The 12-step recovery was work, in and of itself. It was hard work, because it required an honest look at myself and my sin. While therapy group focused more on healing from bad memories and relearning how to do relationships with people, 12-step recovery tested my strength in terms of my habits and patterns in the here and now. What I wish to do now is to share a modified version of the 12 steps, because I believe its framework mirrors precisely the salvation and sanctification processes (italics are the original text, my adjustments are in straight font):

1. We admitted we were powerless over our sin — that our lives had become unmanageable.

2. Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves (that is, the God of the Bible) could restore us to sanity.

3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of the God of the Bible, and of Jesus Christ His Son.

4. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.

5. Admitted to the God of the Bible, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.

6. Were entirely ready to have the God of the Bible remove all these defects of character.

7. Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.

8. Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.

9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.

10. Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.

11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with the God of the Bible as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.

12. Having been saved by faith through Jesus Christ’s blood sacrifice on the cross as the atoning sacrifice for our sins, and having worked through these Steps as directed by Him, we tried to carry this message to others, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.

[I took the above from the AA resource, but each type of recovery group has their own version of the 12 steps to fit their program (for example, “alcohol” for AA, “overeating” for OA, “narcotics” for NA, etc).]

The point is, God giving us a spirit of discipline, of self-control, and of a sound mind (in addition to power and love), can take different practical forms, even when the Biblical principle doesn’t change. In this day and age, there are a growing number of people who do not have basic life skills, and this includes how to manage their emotions, impulses, reactions, and compulsions, etc. We used to be able to rely on “common sense” to get us through as a society and as a world. But, as the last five years have shown, “common sense” isn’t common anymore. It is now good sense that needs to be re-taught and re-learned, because I believe we’ve reached beyond a critical mass of individuals where this is required for the long-term stability of society. The good news is, God is able. He is more than able. But we need to submit to His will for our lives and invite Him into our hearts. We need to receive Him (that is, Jesus Christ) as our King and Savior, and to let Him heal us and develop our character so that it can be like His as much as possible.

But Jesus looked at them and said to them, “With men this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.” Matthew 19:26, NKJV

For with God nothing will be impossible.” Luke 1:37, NKJV

For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind. 2 Timothy 1:7, NKJV


Prayer: God, thank You for taking fear's power and replacing it with love. I know there will be times when I feel afraid, but Your Spirit will help me to not live in fear. Please replace my doubts and fears with thoughts about what is good, godly, and true. In Jesus's name, Amen.

Thursday, November 20, 2025

Devotionals from my Bible app: Jesus Does The Impossible (Matthew 19:26)



But Jesus looked at them and said to them, “With men this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.” Matthew 19:26, NKJV


Note before the devotional: Matthew 19:26 is one of those verses that I’ve wanted to find but wouldn’t have been able to find on my own. With God’s help, I’ve been blessed to not only know verses but also their references (book, chapter, verse) with reasonable precision. But there are many others where I don’t know that yet. 

I think most people are familiar with the verse:

For with God nothing will be impossible.” Luke 1:37, NKJV

A big part of knowing this verse is its context: the angel Gabriel was just finishing up telling Mary that she was going to give birth to the Messiah, the Savior of the world, and that the Holy Spirit Himself would conceive with her. Jesus’s conception is very widely known as Exhibit A for the statement “nothing is impossible with God.”

However, one thing I’ve noticed over the years is that, as the below devotional will allude to, people tend to treat God like a vending machine, that, because “all things are possible with Him,” therefore “all things are expected of Him,” very often in a very disrespectful manner. And I myself have been guilty of that before. I’ve both been guilty of doing it, as well as have been on the receiving end of someone else expecting the impossible from me. After all, I “can do all things through Christ who strengthens me” (Philippians 4:13), which is true, but the way many people treat this verse misses the key point of also humbling oneself before the Lord. God is sovereign. His will be done, not mine, and not yours. But with faith and humility, both, we then get to experience God coming through in the impossible moments.

It’s why I really love Matthew 19:26 (But Jesus looked at them and said to them, “With men this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.”) and have wanted to find it, despite not knowing where to look. (I’m also chuckling at the irony that this verse is even proving its truth through my efforts to find it!) It speaks to both things: 1.) that things can be (and often are) impossible on one’s own strength, and 2.) by contrast, all things are possible with God, even beyond our wildest imaginations.

‘Ah, Lord God! Behold, You have made the heavens and the earth by Your great power and outstretched arm. There is nothing too hard for You. Jeremiah 32:17, NKJV

‘Call to Me, and I will answer you, and show you great and mighty things, which you do not know.’ Jeremiah 33:3, NKJV

Now to Him who is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that works in us, to Him be glory in the church by Christ Jesus to all generations, forever and ever. Amen. Ephesians 3:20-21, NKJV

But remember this:

Therefore humble yourselves under the mighty hand of God, that He may exalt you in due time, casting all your care upon Him, for He cares for you. 1 Peter 5:6-7, NKJV

There’s more I wish to share afterwards, as the devotional itself spoke to me as well.



Jesus Does The Impossible


Jesus’ statement in Matthew 19:26 is often taken out of context. Many people have taken this verse to mean that they can do anything they want in life because God can do the impossible. Often this can lead to selfish prayers and a small view of God.


In order to understand what Jesus is saying, we should read the preceding verses. In Matthew 19:16-22, a young man comes to Jesus asking for eternal life. Jesus tells him that he must give up all of his earthly possessions—something the young man is not willing to do. Because he failed the test, the young man failed to inherit eternal life.


Jesus says in Matthew 19:23 that it is very difficult for a rich man to enter heaven. The point is that loving Jesus requires everything we are. Our ultimate love cannot be split between Jesus and something else.


The disciples then ask, “Who can be saved?” Jesus responds in Matthew 19:26 that it is impossible for man to save himself—but it is possible with God. God can do the very thing that man cannot.


We cannot earn our salvation. We cannot work hard enough to attain it, and we can’t achieve it on our own. It is impossible. But with God all things are made possible for us to be saved. It is only through the work and power of Jesus that we have access to salvation. And through the empowerment of the Spirit, we are enabled to have faith in God.


What in your life is keeping you from faith in Jesus? Maybe it’s a relationship. Maybe it’s material possessions. Maybe it's a wrong mindset. Whatever it might be—God has the power to remove these things from your heart so that you can have faith in Jesus.


So, spend some time with God today, and ask Him to search your heart. Ask Him to reveal anything within you that is keeping you from loving Jesus. Then, do something daring—surrender those things to Him.




Note after the devotional: Before I begin reflecting on the devotional itself, I felt prompted to proceed and share the contextual verses for today’s focus verse. There are two passages that were highlighted. The first is a conversation between Jesus and a rich young ruler who had asked Him how one might receive eternal life:

16 Now behold, one came and said to Him, “Good Teacher, what good thing shall I do that I may have eternal life?”

17 So He said to him, “Why do you call Me good? No one is good but One, that is, God. But if you want to enter into life, keep the commandments.”

18 He said to Him, “Which ones?”

Jesus said, “‘You shall not murder,’ ‘You shall not commit adultery,’ ‘You shall not steal,’ ‘You shall not bear false witness,’ 19 ‘Honor your father and your mother,’ and, ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’ ”

20 The young man said to Him, “All these things I have kept from my youth. What do I still lack?”

21 Jesus said to him, “If you want to be perfect, go, sell what you have and give to the poor, and you will have treasure in heaven; and come, follow Me.”

22 But when the young man heard that saying, he went away sorrowful, for he had great possessions.


Afterward, Jesus debriefed with His disciples about the exchange with the young ruler:

23 Then Jesus said to His disciples, “Assuredly, I say to you that it is hard for a rich man to enter the kingdom of heaven. 24 And again I say to you, it is easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle than for a rich man to enter the kingdom of God.”

25 When His disciples heard it, they were greatly astonished, saying, “Who then can be saved?”

26 But Jesus looked at them and said to them, “With men this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.”

27 Then Peter answered and said to Him, “See, we have left all and followed You. Therefore what shall we have?”

28 So Jesus said to them, “Assuredly I say to you, that in the regeneration, when the Son of Man sits on the throne of His glory, you who have followed Me will also sit on twelve thrones, judging the twelve tribes of Israel. 29 And everyone who has left houses or brothers or sisters or father or mother or wife or children or lands, for My name’s sake, shall receive a hundredfold, and inherit eternal life. 30 But many who are first will be last, and the last first.


The above passages are centrally about salvation. We cannot save ourselves. No amount or quality of “good works” that we do will earn any kind of favor with God. The command is simple: believe and obey:

But what does it say? “The word is near you, in your mouth and in your heart” (that is, the word of faith which we preach): that if you confess with your mouth the Lord Jesus and believe in your heart that God has raised Him from the dead, you will be saved. For with the heart one believes unto righteousness, and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation. Romans 10:8-10, NKJV

“Not everyone who says to Me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ shall enter the kingdom of heaven, but he who does the will of My Father in heaven. Matthew 7:21, NKJV

Jesus answered and said to them, “This is the work of God, that you believe in Him whom He sent.” John 6:29, NKJV

And this is the will of Him who sent Me, that everyone who sees the Son and believes in Him may have everlasting life; and I will raise him up at the last day.” John 6:40, NKJV

The point is, as the devotional says: We cannot earn our salvation. We cannot work hard enough to attain it, and we can’t achieve it on our own. It is impossible. and: Loving Jesus requires everything we are. Our ultimate love cannot be split between Jesus and something else. These statements are a shot to the heart, and rightly so. I know I have grown in my faith in knowledge of scripture as well as growth in turning away from sin. But I’m also aware that, just like the young ruler (and perhaps even more so than even he), I still have so far to go. I say I love Jesus and want people to get saved. But my heart on a day-to-day basis has often said things contrary to the above. Bottom line, that’s unacceptable. There’s a reason Jesus has repeatedly stated that our righteousness must exceed that of the Pharisees. They did a lot of good things, but they also hated the God whom they claimed to serve.

Especially in this last year, I’ve been having all sorts of reflections and thoughts running through my head, more so than usual (and I often have reflections and thoughts running through my head!). I’ve reached middle age, which isn’t old (not even close!). As part of this milestone, I’ve begun to recognize that the things of youth that I thought were so “mission-critical” to life (and the events in which are so far in the rearview mirror!) really aren’t anymore. And if my head had been screwed on straight back then, they never would’ve gotten to the intensity and dominance that they did. 

I say the above not as a regret, but rather as a sign of a requisite mind-shift. Now, it’s about legacy. And even then, there is a potential trap in it. An honest question, how do I want to be remembered? can turn into one of two responses: 1.) being remembered for the “great person” I was and all the “great things” I did while alive on this earth; or 2.) being remembered for my love for Jesus and for others, and how that showed through in my fruit and in my work. Response #2 is the correct response and needs to be my reply; but Response #1 is closer to reality and must change.

Concerning the topic of legacy, most people don’t think about that when they’re young (regardless of generation). Many will typically think about the next thrill, the next chase, the next adventure. Many others battle with addiction and mental issues (although I also know that such challenges are not limited to the youth!). I myself was in a dark hole of my own for a long time when I was younger. Now, after having gotten out of that, I see that the battle rages on. Just because Jesus set me free from all sorts of things (praise Him for that!) doesn’t mean the enemy isn’t going to try to push me back down again. That was probably the worst wake-up call I’ve had to date. Once I was completely set free, I sincerely thought I had “made it.” And I did. But the fallacy was the idea that once I had “made it,” I would never ever have to worry about that again. I cannot begin to tell you how many times, in however many different ways, shapes, and forms, have I been completely wrong about that!

There are other self-reflection categories that I’ll need to save for another post, should the opportunity arise. The short version to conclude this above diversion is simply that the war doesn’t stop until Jesus returns as promised in the book of Revelation:

11 Now I saw heaven opened, and behold, a white horse. And He who sat on him was called Faithful and True, and in righteousness He judges and makes war. 12 His eyes were like a flame of fire, and on His head were many crowns. He had a name written that no one knew except Himself. 13 He was clothed with a robe dipped in blood, and His name is called The Word of God. 14 And the armies in heaven, clothed in fine linen, white and clean, followed Him on white horses. 15 Now out of His mouth goes a sharp sword, that with it He should strike the nations. And He Himself will rule them with a rod of iron. He Himself treads the winepress of the fierceness and wrath of Almighty God. 16 And He has on His robe and on His thigh a name written:

KING OF KINGS AND
LORD OF LORDS.


In the meantime:

Therefore, my beloved, as you have always obeyed, not as in my presence only, but now much more in my absence, work out your own salvation with fear and trembling; Philippians 2:12, NKJV

and,

being confident of this very thing, that He who has begun a good work in you will complete it until the day of Jesus Christ; Philippians 1:6, NKJV


What in your life is keeping you from faith in Jesus? Maybe it’s a relationship. Maybe it’s material possessions. Maybe it's a wrong mindset. 

It’s all the above. Deep down, my flesh wants control, and my flesh claims to have a “good” idea for how my life should be playing out, instead of how it has thus far. But, time and time again, my flesh has consistently proven it’s not strong enough, quick enough, smart enough, or crafty enough to put together my own plan for my life on my own and carry it out. How many times have I had to learn that lesson, now? More times than I can count. Thus, it should therefore be easier to convince myself to surrender completely to Jesus daily. After all, there really is no other way:

Then Jesus said to His disciples, “If anyone desires to come after Me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross, and follow Me. Matthew 16:24, NKJV

Jesus said to him, “I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me. John 14:6, NKJV


Prayer: God, unclench my closed fists. Whatever it is that’s holding me back -- I release it to You. Please deliver me as I battle against my selfish desires and thoughts, and the things that feel impossible. Show me how to love You above all else. I trust that You are working all things for my good and Your glory. In Jesus’s name, Amen.



Saturday, November 15, 2025

A plug for BibleFix: 7 Types of People You Must Avoid

Link: 7 Types of People You Must Avoid

From BibleFix on YouTube

Released August 28, 2025

Transcription:

Not everyone close to you is from God. That’s a hard truth, but it’s one we cannot afford to ignore. Some people are blessings, others are assignments, and some are simply distractions meant to pull you away from your calling. That’s why today’s message is so important. I want to share with you seven types of people that God Himself warns us to avoid. And I encourage you to [read] until the very end, because number seven is the most dangerous of them all. It could be silently blocking your calling without you even realizing it. So let’s dive in.

1.      The first type is the manipulator. These are people who appear loving on the outside but have hidden motives. They use flattery, guilt, or pressure to make you do what benefits them. Manipulators thrive when you ignore your boundaries. Samson’s downfall in Judges 16 is the perfect example. Delilah constantly pressed him to reveal the secret of his strength. At first, Samson resisted, but her persistence wore him down. The result: Samson lost his calling, his freedom, and his eyesight. A manipulator is not always obvious. Sometimes they disguise themselves as “friends who just want the best for you.” But in truth, their interest in you is tied to what they can gain. The Bible warns us in Matthew 7:15, “Beware of false prophets, who come to you in sheep’s clothing, but inwards are ravenous wolves.” Ask yourself: does this person respect my boundaries, or do they always push past them for their own gain? If the answer is the latter, you are dealing with a manipulator.

2.      The second type is the jealous spirit. Jealousy is one of the oldest poisons in Scripture. Cain killed Abel out of jealousy. Saul tried to kill David out of jealousy. Jealousy is not just dislike; it’s silent resentment of your blessing. What makes jealousy dangerous is that it often hides under a smile. A jealous person may clap when you succeed, but deep inside they wish it was them. They are happy when you fail, and miserable when you thrive. Proverbs 27:4 says, “Anger is cruel and fury overwhelming, but who can stand before jealousy?” Unlike anger [which] comes and goes, jealousy lingers. It grows. And if you’re not careful, jealous people will try to sabotage you, discourage you, or compete with you in destructive ways. A true friend celebrates your victories as if they were their own. If someone cannot rejoice when God blesses you, they are not meant to walk with you in your calling.

3.      The third type is the time-waster. Time-wasters are not always evil, but they are dangerous because they pull you into fruitless cycles. They constantly distract you, fill your schedule with meaningless things, or demand your attention for issues that don’t matter. Paul tells us in Ephesians 5:15-16, “Be careful how you live, making the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil.” Every moment God gives us is precious. That means whoever we give our time to should help us grow closer to God, fulfill our purpose, or at the very least, refresh our soul. If a person constantly drains you with drama, endless phone calls, pointless arguments, or empty activities, they are wasting your time. And time is one of the few things you can never get back. Remember: the enemy doesn’t always destroy with big attacks. Sometimes he simply sends people who waste your years until you wake up and realize how much time has been stolen.

4.      The fourth type is the [gossiper*]. A [gossiper] is someone who speaks when they should be silent. They may seem entertaining or even friendly, but their words carry destruction. Proverbs 16:28 says, “a [gossiper] separates close friends.” [Gossipers] thrive on information. They live to spread it, whether true or false. The problem is, the same mouth that speaks others to you will eventually speak against you to others. That is their nature. The Bible takes gossip seriously. Romans 1:29 lists gossip alongside sins like murder and idolatry. Why? Because gossip kills – [it kills] not the body, but reputations, trust, and relationships. Ask yourself: when I leave this person’s presence, do I feel uplifted or poisoned? Do they encourage me to pray for others? Or do they encourage me to judge others? If someone is constantly bringing other people’s business to your ears, they are slowly planting seeds of division in your heart. Don’t let a [gossiper] be your closest companion.

5.      The fifth type is the user. Users are people who only stay as long as the benefits last. They don’t value you for who you are, but for what they can get from you. Jesus Himself encountered users. In John 6, after He fed the five thousand, the crowds followed Him eagerly. But when he started teaching about sacrifice and commitment, many turned back. Why? Because they were there for bread, not for truth. A user may call you a “friend,” but they disappear when you need them. They expect you to help them, but they are never available when the situation is reversed. This is not love; it’s exploitation. Proverbs 25:19 says, “Like a broken tooth or a lame foot, is reliance on the unfaithful in a time of trouble.” A user is unreliable. And if you rely on them, you will be disappointed every time. Choose instead to surround yourself with people who can give as well as receive, encourage as well as lean, and love you for who you are [and] not what you have.

6.      The sixth type is the negative thinker. Negativity is contagious. It spreads faster than faith, if you let it. Negative thinkers will always see the problem but never the solution. They magnify obstacles and minimize opportunities. The clearest example is found in Numbers 13. When the twelve spies returned from exploring Canaan, ten said, “We can’t do it. The giants are too strong.” Only Joshua and Caleb said, “with God, we can.” The people chose to believe the ten, and their unbelief cost them forty years in the wilderness. A negative thinker will kill your faith if you keep listening. They’ll tell you your dream is too big, your prayer is too bold, your faith is unrealistic. But Philippians 4:13 says, “I can do all this through Him who gives me strength.” Surround yourself with people who speak faith, not fear; people who remind you of God’s promises instead of magnifying your problems.

7.      The seventh type, and the most dangerous, is the unrepentant sinner. Now, we are all sinners saved by grace, but the difference is in repentance. A repentant person falls but gets back up. An unrepentant person knows the truth, rejects it, and influences others to do the same. 1 Corinthians 15:33 warns, “Do not be misled; bad company corrupts good character.” If you surround yourself with people who continually live in rebellion against God, their lifestyle will eventually affect yours. This doesn’t mean you stop loving them. It doesn’t mean you judge them harshly. Jesus spent time with sinners, but He never let their sin shape His walk. The danger comes when unrepentant people become your closest voices, because over time they will normalize disobedience in your life. Pray for them. Show them God’s love. But guard your calling, because if you are not careful, their rebellion will begin to look like your routine.

These seven types – manipulators, jealous spirits, time-wasters, gossipers, users, negative thinkers, and unrepentant sinners – are all clearly warned about in Scripture. God is not telling us to hate these people; He is telling us to exercise discernment. Jesus loved everyone; yet He chose His circle carefully. He ministered to multitudes, but He called only twelve disciples, and even within the twelve, He drew three closer than the rest. Why? Because not everyone is meant to have the same level of access to your life. So today, ask God for wisdom. Pray for discernment to recognize who is lifting you toward your calling, and who may be quietly pulling you away from it. And when God shows you, trust Him enough to let go, because protecting your calling sometimes means pruning your circle.

God bless you, and may He give you wisdom and strength in every relationship you walk in.

 *The original word is "gossip." I changed it to "gossiper" to hopefully make it more understandable. I think of "gossip" as the act itself, and "gossiper" as the person who does the act.


 Notes after sharing the transcription: More recently, I've come across several different Bible-based YouTube channels that give wisdom that we can apply to different areas of our lives that go beyond the question of salvation and other basic faith-related topics (sin, forgiveness, etc). In my own life, especially psychological wisdom eluded me until I entered the therapy world to learn how to do life, as I healed. It was great, but what I did eventually find was that even what I had received in that season didn't prepare me for how to handle certain areas of the real world. As such, I've had to re-learn quite a few things, and hopefully now am on a path where I'm able to follow the Bible regarding how to handle aspects of life that even at my current age are still new to me.

One area of weakness that pervaded up until recently was the type of people I gravitated toward. Because I still held out hope that I could hang out with the types of people that I grew up with (just that they're Christian (enough) and that they're more psychologically mature), I ended up repeating a lot of mistakes that I had made from childhood years. The only difference was I now had a support group with which I could process things and try to understand what in the world was going on (again).

Now, I'm at a point where I am actually willing to spend time with different people, and I'm starting to reap the benefits of this change. More of my key friends are steeped in the Bible than ever before (and not just "cultural Christians"), and with God's help I've reached what I believe and hope to be a critical mass of believers in my life to where, with my few friends who aren't, I am able to stand firm on the Word and not fear losing that friend. After all, I've already been through that with those that I thought had mattered the most, at the times in which I lost them.

One final thought: as a millennial, I grew up with the mentality of FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out). My high school years to a small degree, but moreso my college and young adult years were marked by this fear, this obsession of fitting in with a crowd, any crowd. As much as I wanted a woman in my life, I also wanted different circles of friends, including close friends as well as "common interest only" friends. I did get to experience some of those joys of fitting in with others and not missing out, but even then, those moments fleeted and didn't truly satisfy. Years later, after having experienced a series of toxic friendships and toxic situations, I'm finding that a blend of precious, Bible-steeped friends and solitude (i.e. more space to spend time with God and engage in work that I love to do) is far more satisfactory. Toxic people just aren't worth it. And while God calls us to forgive and love everyone, including praying for our enemies, I also believe He calls us to cull people out of our lives that are harmful for our walk with Him.

Do not be deceived: “Evil company corrupts good habits.” 1 Corinthians 15:33, NKJV

“I am the true vine, and My Father is the vinedresser. Every branch in Me that does not bear fruit He takes away; and every branch that bears fruit He prunes, that it may bear more fruit. John 15:1-2, NKJV 



Thursday, November 13, 2025

God's faithfulness through the coming and going of friendships


Lately I started getting caught up on archiving old blog posts again (if I'm ever called to write a book, I firmly believe that said book would be a collection of most, if not all, these posts), and I felt drawn to re-read an old series from June 2023 (see posts here, here, here, here, and here). It's interesting, now that I've been more years down the pike in my new life with my girlfriend-turned-fiancée-turned wife, how much priorities have shifted. Aside from my childhood best friend, I've let a few other friendships die off, for all sorts of reasons. Working on practicing 1 Corinthians 15:33 (Do not be deceived: “Evil company corrupts good habits.”) has been both hard and freeing at the same time. 

Another Bible verse that seems to apply very aptly here is John 15:1-2 (“I am the true vine, and My Father is the vinedresser. Every branch in Me that does not bear fruit He takes away; and every branch that bears fruit He prunes, that it may bear more fruit.). It's not just the friendships I've dropped--in addition to my childhood best friend (who admittedly dropped me, but it's still to my benefit), I ended up saying goodbye to a our mutual flying-aficionado friend because, like with my childhood best friend, I felt like our friendship at its current stage no longer suited either of us; as well as several others from my music-business years--but also the friendships I've kept but allowed God to prune. 

One main example is my friend who was my best man at my wedding and with whom I maintain weekly calls. Even though church was the initial function of our friendship, it didn't take off until we were both in therapy working on healing from various different traumas and wounds. That key aspect of our friendship helped to serve both of our respective healing and personal growth paths. However, we both ended up downsizing our therapy footprints (I believe at God's leading) and redirected our focus to our respective relationships with the Lord and to what He was calling each of us to do. We still check in and talk about difficulties in our lives. But we also regularly try to focus on our respective walks with God, encouraging one another in the faith, and give God praise and glory as well. Connecting with each other has moved from a therapy-centered lens to a faith-centered lens. That was God's pruning in action. About a month or two ago, we both commented and agreed that, especially in light of all the different various life changes for us both, we will be lifetime friends. I smile at the the thought of it.

Additionally, and especially over the last few months, I felt God highlight several friendships within my current church to push forward in, including my pastor and one of the key elders at church. Additionally, a few other friends have come into view for fellowship and connecting for fun. In retrospect, I think this might have only been made possible upon moving out of my now-in-laws' house upon marriage, as they tended to dominate my wife's and my church experience as well as connections with others. Fellowship with other church members almost always tended to also include them. Bottom line, however, is that with our relationship with them restructured in ways consistent with children grown up and moved out of the house, it has finally allowed my wife and me to develop our own relationships and connections with others without the in-laws' influence.

Sometimes, though, other existing friendships get strengthened unexpectedly. Aside from my best man, I've been blessed and privileged to reconnect and strengthen friendships with three other men that I also knew from my former church. These are men I've known for 15 years, and have experienced different ebbs and flows in each individual friendship. But because they are Biblical men in both knowledge and inclination, God has allowed space for a new and greater depth of connection to flourish, in large part because we have all grown in maturity and knowledge of the Lord Jesus Christ through Scripture.

One cool tidbit that can happen, with the fruits of the Holy Spirit's work, especially as I've found it in me, is that sometimes by letting certain things slip that I wouldn't have in previous seasons, reveals just how far I have allowed God to shift my loyalties. I was privileged to be part of a healing/support conversation with two friends recently, one of whom had a need, and in a situation where God had given me knowledge and experience to support him and help him out. In that conversation, as I was listening and hearing God bring various truths and personal anecdotes to mind, I had let slip regarding my childhood best friend's sexual self-proclamation, as well as our friendship status. 

After I had let that slip, the other man at that table, who knew my childhood best friend and with whom we had gone on a few adventures together (none of which included flying), was honestly surprised and expressed as such. And I realized in that moment that I too was shocked I had let it slip out. I don't believe it was necessarily wrong for me to do so, but it was noteworthy because for the time "way back when" in which these friends from different circles had known each other, I used to work so hard to keep my gay friend's self-proclamation a secret. In the past, I didn't want my "Bible-thumping" friends disparaging my childhood best friend. However, after the passage of time, the changing of loyalties, and the loss and gain of friendships (including with my childhood best friend), there really was no longer any reason to hide it. After all, I was (and am) pro-Biblical marriage. And, because it is now almost five years since I was last in contact with my gay ex-friend, while I'm strengthening (and being strengthened) by my Bible-believing friends, including these two men, there was no reason to protect a silly little fact from two dear friends regarding someone who was no longer in my life.

I look forward to seeing what God will do in the future. In 2022, when I led that Bible study for 10 months, I felt God gave me a picture of what organic fellowship can look like when mixing Bible-believing individuals from different churches. Strengthening friendships with the three men from my previous church, as well as several others from my current church, may someday provide a platform to create space for new friendships to form yet again. I still remember how God made it happen my junior year in college. At least five other men from three different social circles that I was a part of came together, with God's help, to bond over common interests and talking about life. My heart is full when this type of fellowship takes place.

One area of continued growth needed: I still battle temptation to want to meet up with and have reunions with various different people from my past. I made a declaration this past summer that I was done with it, and I must stick to it. If God does want me to reconnect with anyone that I've fallen out of touch with, I trust that He will make that happen. I am learning the beauty of a balance between a few choice truly valuable friendships and solitude, rather than trying to not miss out and fit in instead. I got the girl (she's now my wife). I got the close friends, with the possibility of bringing on a few more to bond and grow in faith together. But God is faithful through it all.

As for the fear of missing out, the real fear is missing out on eternity with Jesus Christ in heaven. If you don't have Him as your King and Savior, you will indeed miss out. How to not miss out? Surrender your life to Jesus and submit your will to Him. Let Him into your heart and surrender every area of your heart and your life to Him. And most importantly, do it today. Tomorrow is not guaranteed; you don't know how much time you have on this earth. Today is the day of salvation!!

Monday, November 10, 2025

A Plug for Grace Oasis: Rejoice Today, Don’t Let The Enemy Steal Your Joy

 


The below is a transcription from this video by Grace Oasis, a wonderful prayer and Biblical meditation channel on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xBtqrVH27gM

Before we pray, let’s first take a moment to listen to God’s Word, and then we’ll pray together.

Some mornings don’t feel like a reason to rejoice. You wake up tired, weighed down, thinking about the battles you still have to fight. Life often tempts us to measure our joy by our circumstances. A good report makes us glad. A setback steals our peace. But the Bible teaches a different rhythm. Psalm 118:24 says, “This is the day the Lord has made; we will rejoice and be glad in it.” The Bible doesn’t say, “This is one of the many days” or, “This is a day among others.” No, it says, “This is the day.” That means the day you are living in right now, this very moment, this sunrise, this breath, is a divine gift straight from the hands of God. And because it comes from Him, the only fitting response is to rejoice and be glad. Let me ask you a question: what else can you truly do but rejoice when you realize the creator of heaven and earth has granted you another day? What else can you do but be glad when you understand that this day was not promised to you, but given freely of His mercy? Every morning you wake up, you have been handed a fresh opportunity to live for God, to glorify His name, and to walk as His ambassador on this earth. I encourage you today, choose joy. Rejoice, not because your circumstances are perfect but because you belong to Jesus. As a child of God, you have access to strength beyond your own, peace beyond your understanding, and hope that cannot be taken away. You have the endurance to outlast the storm, the faith to withstand trials, and the power to silence the devil himself, all because you have Jesus.

Now think of the words of Jesus: in John 10:10 it says, “the thief does not come except to steal, and to kill, and to destroy. I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly.” There is a spiritual battle over your joy. The enemy knows that if he can steal your joy, he can weaken your faith. If he can kill your hope, he can paralyze your walk with God. If he can destroy your peace, he can keep you trapped in fear. And sadly, I’ve seen it happen far too often: believers who once walked with confidence in God suddenly burdened and defeated because the devil whispered lies into their hearts. But while the thief seeks to steal, Jesus came to restore. While the enemy tries to kill, Jesus came to give abundant life, a life marked by peace, joy, purpose, and hope, even in the face of trials. I understand life can hurt. There are moments that wound deeply, situations that leave you feeling crushed, and disappointments that make you question everything. But in those moments, your reaction matters. You can let bitterness grow, or you can run into the arms of Christ. You can dwell in discouragement, or you can let the Lord heal you and lift you up again. The prophet Isaiah gives us a promise: in Isaiah 40:31, “but those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles. They will run and not grow weary. They will walk and not be faint.” That is what happens when you place your hope in God. He renews your strength. He lifts you higher than your circumstances. He carries you when your legs can’t walk another step. He puts courage back into your heart when fear has drained it away. With Him, you are not only able to survive life’s storms, you are able to soar above them. I may not know the specifics of what you’re going through today. I may not know the weight on your shoulders, the questions in your heart, or the battles you are silently fighting. But what I do know is this: God has not forgotten you. His Word speaks into your situation with clarity and hope. Listen to what He says in Jeremiah 29:11: “ ‘for I know the plans I have for you,’ declares the Lord, ‘plans to prosper you and not to harm you; plans to give you hope and a future.’” That means, even when you don’t see the road ahead, God sees it. Even when your life feels uncertain, His plans for you are steady. Even when you feel like everything is falling apart, His purpose for your life is still intact. He holds the blueprint, and He has not abandoned His work in you.

So, dear friend, rejoice. Rejoice not because everything is perfect, but because you have a perfect God. Rejoice not because you know all the answers, but because You know the one who holds them. Rejoice and be glad because the Lord has already gone ahead of you, preparing a way, shaping your steps, and writing a story of redemption in your life. Maybe right now your circumstances are heavy. Maybe the pain feels unbearable. Maybe you don’t feel like rejoicing at all. But find just one reason today to rejoice. Maybe it’s the fact that you woke up this morning with breath in your lungs. Maybe it’s the fact that God has promised never to leave you. Maybe it’s the fact that His mercies are new every morning. Even in the darkest valley, there is always one reason to praise. And as you choose to rejoice, even in the small things, you will find that joy begins to grow. Gratitude will shift your perspective. Faith will rise in your heart. And you will discover that no matter what comes your way, you can face it with confidence because this is the day the Lord has made. So walk into this day with gladness. Speak life into your heart. Pray with thanksgiving. Worship even when it hurts. Declare God’s promises over yourself and over your family. Refuse to let the enemy steal your song. Refuse to let your circumstances dictate your joy. Instead, anchor yourself in the unchanging truth: God is good, God is faithful, and God is with you. Yes, life will bring both sunshine and storm. But in both, you have reason to rejoice. Sunshine reminds you of God’s blessing, and storms remind you of His power to carry you through. Either way, you are never abandoned. So today, choose joy. This day, rejoice. This day, declare with all your heart: “this is the day the Lord has made; I will rejoice and be glad in it.”

Now, let’s take a moment to pray together:

Heavenly Father,

You are a great and mighty God. You are my Redeemer, Lord Jesus, the Lamb Who was slain and King Who reigns forevermore. You are our Deliverer, the One Who broke the chains of sin and led us out of captivity into the freedom of grace. You are the One Who speaks light into darkness, peace into chaos, and hope into despair. And today, Lord, I come before You with a heart of gratitude, lifting up my voice in worship. As Your Word declares in Psalm 118:24, I boldly declare: “this is the day that the Lord has made, and I will rejoice and be glad in it.”

Father, I thank You for this new day. Thank You for the gift of life, for the very air I breathe, for the beating of my heart, for the strength in my body, and for the thoughts in my mind. Thank You for giving me the ability to praise You. Forgive me, Lord, for the times when I have failed to rejoice in the goodness You continually pour into my life. Forgive me for the moments when I have allowed complaints to overshadow gratitude, when I’ve let circumstances steal my joy instead of resting in Your presence. Forgive me if I have ever treated grace lightly or forgotten the price Jesus paid for my salvation. Lord, I don’t ever want to take You for granted. Holy Spirit, I ask You to help me when I feel overwhelmed. Life can often weigh heavily on my heart, but You are my Helper and my Comforter. When I feel trapped under the weight of my troubles, meet me where I am. When it feels like there’s no end in sight, wrap me in Your peace. When I feel like giving up, breathe new strength into me.

Open my eyes, Holy Spirit, so that I can see the countless blessings God has already placed in my life. Help me to recognize His fingerprints in the little details and His faithfulness in the big moments. Lord, protect me from the negativity of this world. Guard my heart so that the bad reports, the chaos, and the darkness around me do not steal the joy You have planted within me. Remind me daily that I already have victory in Christ Jesus. As Your Word warns, the enemy comes only to steal, kill and destroy, but I refuse to hand over my joy to him. I stand firm on the truth that Christ has already overcome. Your Word says in Psalm 119:162: “I rejoice at Your Word as one who finds great treasure.” Father, thank You for Your Word, which is more valuable than gold, more nourishing than bread, more refreshing than water. Thank You for the Scriptures that provide me with comfort when I am anxious, with assurance when I am uncertain, and with hope when I am weary. Your Word reminds me not to fear, because You are with me. Your Word tells me not to be dismayed, because You are my God. Your Word promises that if I trust in You, You will keep in me perfect peace. Your Word tells me that You order my steps, that You go before me, and that You surround me with Your presence. For every one of these promises, I have countless reasons to rejoice.

So I pray, Holy Spirit, help me not only to read the Word but to live it. Plant it so deeply in my heart that it becomes my meditation day and night. Help me to recall it when temptation comes, to speak it when fear rises, and to believe it when doubt whispers. Make me a person whose lifestyle reflects constant trust in Your Word. Father, I hold on to the promise of Matthew 21:22: “and whatever things you ask in prayer, believing, you will receive.” Thank You, Lord, for such a promise. You care about the cries of my heart, the tears on my pillow, the silent prayers no one else hears. What a wonder it is that the infinite, all-powerful God is also my loving Father.

For this, Lord, I will rejoice. I rejoice not only in answered prayers, but even in the waiting, because I know You are faithful. I rejoice in Your presence, because it is better than life. I rejoice in Your mercy, because it renews every morning. I rejoice in Your protection, because You command Your angels concerning me. I rejoice in Your provision, because You supply all my needs according to Your riches in glory. Lord, thank You for health in my body, for peace in my home, for the gift of family and loved ones. Thank You for protecting me from dangers I never saw. Thank You for shielding me from attacks that never touched me. Thank You for doors You’ve opened, and even for doors You’ve closed, because You see what I cannot see. Thank You for every sunrise, for every quiet night, for every blessing big and small. Holy Spirit, help me to live each day with a heart that gives God glory and praise. Help me to live with joy that is not dependent on circumstances but rooted in Christ. Teach me to cultivate a spirit of thankfulness. I declare that this is the day that You have made, Lord, and I will rejoice and be glad in it.

Be blessed now and forevermore, King Jesus. All glory, honor, and power belong to You. In the mighty and precious name of Jesus, I pray. Amen.

If this prayer has touched your heart, please type “Amen” as a sign of faith. I pray that every blessing in this prayer is now upon you, in the name of Jesus. And if you need a special prayer, feel to let us know in the comments. We would be honored to pray for you. May the grace and peace of our Lord Jesus Christ be with you always.

Friday, November 7, 2025

Reading through the Bible 2025: Ezra’s prayer response in the wake of sin




A popular verse among believers to claim, upon repentance of course, is the following:

“If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.”
‭‭I John‬ ‭1‬:‭9‬ ‭NKJV‬‬


The context is that it is important to confess one’s sin, and not to hide or deny it, as evidenced by the preceding and following verses:

“If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us.”
‭‭I John‬ ‭1‬:‭8‬ ‭NKJV‬‬


“If we say that we have not sinned, we make Him a liar, and His word is not in us.”
‭‭I John‬ ‭1‬:‭10‬ ‭NKJV‬‬


The book of Ezra in the Bible is one of those with which I have almost no familiarity. I know the basics: that Ezra was a Jewish priest in the post-exilic era, and he was priest during the time of the rebuilding of Jerusalem after the Babylonians, led by King Nebuchadnezzar, had destroyed it. And thanks to a one-time series on the neighboring book of Nehemiah that my Bible study did, I also knew that Ezra was priest during Nehemiah’s governorship, and that it was Nehemiah who actually oversaw the rebuilding of Jerusalem’s walls.

The time in which the Israelites, now known as the Jews (it was a new term to reference them at the time!), returned to Jerusalem after 70 years in exile was hectic and chaotic, to say the least. In many ways similar to the Moses-era Hebrews who had just left the slavery lifestyle in Egypt, these folks had trouble adjusting to a life that wasn’t captivity for them. As Ezra would reference in his prayer of repentance:

“which You commanded by Your servants the prophets, saying, ‘The land which you are entering to possess is an unclean land, with the uncleanness of the peoples of the lands, with their abominations which have filled it from one end to another with their impurity. Now therefore, do not give your daughters as wives for their sons, nor take their daughters to your sons; and never seek their peace or prosperity, that you may be strong and eat the good of the land, and leave it as an inheritance to your children forever.’”
‭‭Ezra‬ ‭9‬:‭11‬-‭12‬ ‭NKJV‬‬


The Moses-era and especially the Joshua-era Israelites had similar issues: that generation didn’t obey God’s commands of moral purity, and they didn’t entirely drive out the pagans living in the land. In Ezra and Nehemiah’s era, the people once again had the same issues. They married into their neighboring pagan societies, and they began following their false idols instead of the God of the Bible.

There’s often a reason that the Bible tends to repeat itself when recording human history, whether in the early Old Testament, the late Old Testament, or even in the New Testament: people (specifically those who haven’t given their hearts, lives, and desires over to the Kingship of Jesus Christ, who has the power to save) tend to fall into the same traps over and over again. Those who tend to be sexually obsessed fall into the traps of sexual temptation and immorality. Those who tend to be money-obsessed fall into the traps of greed and exploitation of others. And those who tend to be self-obsessed tend to fall into the traps of pride, arrogance, and self-righteousness. The Bible sums it up quite succinctly in this verse:

“For all that is in the world—the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life—is not of the Father but is of the world.”
‭‭I John‬ ‭2‬:‭16‬ ‭NKJV‬‬


Here’s the full context, because this in itself is worth an entire sermon:

“Do not love the world or the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that is in the world—the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life—is not of the Father but is of the world. And the world is passing away, and the lust of it; but he who does the will of God abides forever.”
‭‭I John‬ ‭2‬:‭15‬-‭17‬ ‭NKJV‬‬


It is for these above reasons, as well as a few I intend to name later, that Ezra’s prayer upon discovering the continuation of wickedness among the Lord’s people, almost as if what the exile intended to accomplish meant nothing.

The chapter begins with a summary of the sins committed by the people, just as they were returning to the land God intended for them to live:

“When these things were done, the leaders came to me, saying, “The people of Israel and the priests and the Levites have not separated themselves from the peoples of the lands, with respect to the abominations of the Canaanites, the Hittites, the Perizzites, the Jebusites, the Ammonites, the Moabites, the Egyptians, and the Amorites. For they have taken some of their daughters as wives for themselves and their sons, so that the holy seed is mixed with the peoples of those lands. Indeed, the hand of the leaders and rulers has been foremost in this trespass.””
‭‭Ezra‬ ‭9‬:‭1‬-‭2‬ ‭NKJV‬‬


It wasn’t just the people; it was the leaders and rulers who were the most guilty of this.

“So when I heard this thing, I tore my garment and my robe, and plucked out some of the hair of my head and beard, and sat down astonished. Then everyone who trembled at the words of the God of Israel assembled to me, because of the transgression of those who had been carried away captive, and I sat astonished until the evening sacrifice. At the evening sacrifice I arose from my fasting; and having torn my garment and my robe, I fell on my knees and spread out my hands to the Lord my God.”
‭‭Ezra‬ ‭9‬:‭3‬-‭5‬ ‭NKJV‬‬


It’s interesting from a 21st-century perspective to read Ezra’s reaction, which was common in his day but completely foreign to mine. Except in movies (and even then, there’s the risk that their interpretation might not accurately or fully capture this), I’ve never seen anyone tear their clothes. I have seen people grasp and tug at their hair (head-top or facial) as a sign of stress, but even then I’ve not seen anyone rip out their hair. (In the Three Stooges, I’ve seen many a clip of Moe ripping out Larry’s hair, but that’s quite different.) But what’s not lost is the sheer anguish that Ezra expressed here. A man who committed his life unto the Lord, to serve Him and walk in His ways—and to take sin seriously—I can’t imagine how he felt hearing that, no matter what he tried and did, the people still did what they wanted. Further, it seemed as if it was everyone who was falling back into sin and depravity.

Speaking of a past case of mass sin and depravity, God still punished Sodom (and Gomorrah), even though He promised Abraham He would spare the city if He could find even ten faithful people there:

“Then he said, “Let not the Lord be angry, and I will speak but once more: Suppose ten should be found there?” And He said, “I will not destroy it for the sake of ten.””
‭‭Genesis‬ ‭18‬:‭32‬ ‭NKJV‬‬


(I think the truth lies in that He only found four faithful people in Sodom: Lot, his wife, and his two daughters. That’s six short of the minimum that God and Abraham agreed on.)

“When the morning dawned, the angels urged Lot to hurry, saying, “Arise, take your wife and your two daughters who are here, lest you be consumed in the punishment of the city.” And while he lingered, the men took hold of his hand, his wife’s hand, and the hands of his two daughters, the Lord being merciful to him, and they brought him out and set him outside the city.”
‭‭Genesis‬ ‭19‬:‭15‬-‭16‬ ‭NKJV‬‬


There are other countless examples from the Bible’s Old Testament that I could provide, but suffice to say, I suspect that part of Ezra’s anguish, on top of the sins at hand, was the baggage of the history of the Jews, all the way back when it was Abraham’s family and first few generations of descendants, and how they had repeatedly disobeyed God. And not only so, but that, despite the mountain of evidence of how He had dealt with previous generations of wicked rebels, and especially despite His grace and mercy in spite of it all, they still sinned again. This latest occurrence of sin had proved that they truly hadn’t learned, even though these same people (who were spared the sword and from famine, by the way) saw the fates that awaited their unrepentant neighbors from a bygone era because of their sin. Hence Ezra’s line (and the accompanying anguish and desperation):

“And I said: “O my God, I am too ashamed and humiliated to lift up my face to You, my God; for our iniquities have risen higher than our heads, and our guilt has grown up to the heavens. Since the days of our fathers to this day we have been very guilty, and for our iniquities we, our kings, and our priests have been delivered into the hand of the kings of the lands, to the sword, to captivity, to plunder, and to humiliation, as it is this day.”
‭‭Ezra‬ ‭9‬:‭6‬-‭7‬ ‭NKJV‬‬


And this:

“And now, O our God, what shall we say after this? For we have forsaken Your commandments,”
‭‭Ezra‬ ‭9‬:‭10‬ ‭NKJV‬‬


I skipped ahead because I wanted to put these particular lines together to truly capture Ezra’s anguish and desperation. Here’s the greater context:

“And now for a little while grace has been shown from the Lord our God, to leave us a remnant to escape, and to give us a peg in His holy place, that our God may enlighten our eyes and give us a measure of revival in our bondage. For we were slaves. Yet our God did not forsake us in our bondage; but He extended mercy to us in the sight of the kings of Persia, to revive us, to repair the house of our God, to rebuild its ruins, and to give us a wall in Judah and Jerusalem. And now, O our God, what shall we say after this? For we have forsaken Your commandments, which You commanded by Your servants the prophets, saying, ‘The land which you are entering to possess is an unclean land, with the uncleanness of the peoples of the lands, with their abominations which have filled it from one end to another with their impurity.”
‭‭Ezra‬ ‭9‬:‭8‬-‭11‬ ‭NKJV‬‬


The point I believe that cannot be stressed enough is that God had shown incredible mercy, even to His people while in the midst of their sin. For 70 years, His people were not in the land that He had sworn to give them, and that was because their sin (as a people) was too great not to ignore. Those who lived in Babylon were the blessed ones. They were allowed to live, because they had chosen to submit themselves to a just discipline. The ones who didn’t were killed or starved to death. This alone gives a whole new meaning on the same confession/repentance verse from the book of 1st John:

“If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.”
‭‭I John‬ ‭1‬:‭9‬ ‭NKJV‬‬


Until a few weeks ago, I had glossed over two key words in this verse: “and just.” Yes, I had known that God was (and is) faithful to forgive all who truly confess, repent, and return to Him. But then the words “and just” were brought to my attention. I’ve been through a lot of challenges in my life, and as a result one of my biggest heart-cry prayers was for justice against those who had done me wrong, or, in some cases, were still doing me wrong. But the thing I hadn’t considered was, “what if some of those individuals confessed to God and repented?” (Of course, I don’t know about any such instance, outside of maybe one or two cases.) The point is, God’s justice includes being merciful to those who truly repent and have a change of heart, regardless of how egregious or damaging their sinful acts were.

Consider King David’s response after being called out for his sins of adultery, murder, and covering up both transgressions, as well as a key part of God’s response to his acknowledgment and repentance:

“So David said to Nathan, “I have sinned against the Lord.” And Nathan said to David, “The Lord also has put away your sin; you shall not die.”
‭‭II Samuel‬ ‭12‬:‭13‬ ‭NKJV‬‬


True, David was not spared of the consequences (and there were major repercussions for his sins). But God showed not only “His mercy” (which is absolutely true but is also a phrase with which one can become desensitized after a while), but His justice as well. The Lord was both faithful and just to forgive David and to cleanse him, so long as he truly repented and returned to the Lord, which he would end up doing:

“David therefore pleaded with God for the child, and David fasted and went in and lay all night on the ground. So the elders of his house arose and went to him, to raise him up from the ground. But he would not, nor did he eat food with them.”
‭‭II Samuel‬ ‭12‬:‭16‬-‭17‬ ‭NKJV‬‬


“So David arose from the ground, washed and anointed himself, and changed his clothes; and he went into the house of the Lord and worshiped. Then he went to his own house; and when he requested, they set food before him, and he ate. And he said, “While the child was alive, I fasted and wept; for I said, ‘Who can tell whether the Lord will be gracious to me, that the child may live?’ But now he is dead; why should I fast? Can I bring him back again? I shall go to him, but he shall not return to me.””
‭‭II Samuel‬ ‭12‬:‭20‬, ‭22‬-‭23‬ ‭NKJV‬‬


(Although I am huge on providing context for Bible verses as a general rule, I did intentionally skip a few verses this time because the intervening verses were simply filler in this case. My goal was to highlight David’s responses of repentance and returning to the Lord.)

The point is, in Ezra’s time, even though I believe he knew that God would forgive if the people truly repented of their sins, because of recent history where prior generations upon prior generations repeatedly ignored previous warnings by multiple prophets to repent and return to the Lord, the concern was that the Jews would not. Long ago was the time when God’s chosen people would actually heed warnings and take the Lord and His commandments seriously. How should Ezra know whether this current generation would prove that they had indeed learned their lesson (and just as significantly, the lesson that their fathers and grandfathers, etc refused to learn)?

After all, the command was simple:

“Now therefore, do not give your daughters as wives for their sons, nor take their daughters to your sons; and never seek their peace or prosperity, that you may be strong and eat the good of the land, and leave it as an inheritance to your children forever.’”
‭‭Ezra‬ ‭9‬:‭12‬ ‭NKJV‬‬


The post-Joshua-era Israelites were guilty of this. King Solomon was notorious for this sin as well. And now, after a just exile (with a side dish of a series of just killings of the survivors’ fellow countrymen and women who didn’t repent), the people were going back to their forefathers’ favorite methods of rebellion.

This also hits me because while I believe that I am saved by grace through faith in Jesus Christ alone as my King and Savior, I still wrestle with the flesh every day. And this passage hits home because I came from a family and lineage of mostly unsaved people, and my former life was littered with worldly influences and worldly people of various different kinds. Although I am gratefully married to another believer, there were times in the past when I was even at risk for potentially choosing a non-believer for a life partner, as I still tended to spend lots of time with non-believers. Although it didn’t keep me from sinning within myself, holy fear did keep me from sinning with other potential prospects that either didn’t arrive with God’s approval at all, or didn’t arrive with His approval in the same way that my now-wife did.

Reflecting back, there was a line that I believe God had spoken to me about in this area of life much more clearly than I had ever heard previously. It contrasted two past potential prospects, one of whom was a believer, and the other with whom it was revealed that she truly wasn’t, despite her appearances. Regarding the latter, I felt I heard the Lord say that “her heart wasn’t in the right place.” Regarding the former, I believe that He simply said: “she was meant for him,” referencing the man she eventually married, after the time in which the two of us had crossed paths, but prior to the day in which I had received this word.

A little more recently, a few years after I had received the aforementioned word, but well before I met my now-wife, I had a very interesting potential prospect where, a little while after the fact, I was supernaturally informed that she and I had come dangerously close to becoming yoked together. On the surface, the revelation didn’t make sense, as I never successfully asked this person out, and by the time that I made a serious attempt at doing so, it was too late. That failure ate at me deeply, perhaps even more deeply than other similar situations with anyone else previously, until I met my now-wife. In retrospect, I think it was because, unlike with several others, there was greater spiritual confirmation of mutual interest, that even a potential initial spark the size of a mustard seed in the right wrong timing would have launched me on such a path. But why the situation comes up at all in today’s reflection of Ezra 9 is because that same revelation also showed me that, at minimum I would’ve become very worldly. More recent revelations showed me in greater depth the spiritual danger that I very possibly would’ve put myself in had I ended up with this person.

Finally, to drive home with the final point of this section, when I was first dating my now-wife, she herself commented several times on the importance of the truth in the verse exhorting believers not to yoke themselves with non-believers:

“Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness?”
‭‭II Corinthians‬ ‭6‬:‭14‬ ‭NKJV‬‬


And yet, this was very precisely the sin that the Jewish leaders and rulers were falling into yet again: yoking themselves with pagans.

“And after all that has come upon us for our evil deeds and for our great guilt, since You our God have punished us less than our iniquities deserve, and have given us such deliverance as this, should we again break Your commandments, and join in marriage with the people committing these abominations? Would You not be angry with us until You had consumed us, so that there would be no remnant or survivor? O Lord God of Israel, You are righteous, for we are left as a remnant, as it is this day. Here we are before You, in our guilt, though no one can stand before You because of this!””
‭‭Ezra‬ ‭9‬:‭13‬-‭15‬ ‭NKJV‬‬


At this juncture in human history, as we await the return of Jesus Christ as King on this earth, I’m still very much aware of the battle, especially in our country, but also in much of western civilization, the battle between Biblical Christian morals and ethics versus worldliness. Although it genuinely appears debatable whether or not the United States of America was founded as a Christian nation (although Charlie Kirk certainly made an argument for the such), we do have God’s promise in the Bible that He would heal us and make us prosper if we truly repent and return to Him:

“if My people who are called by My name will humble themselves, and pray and seek My face, and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin and heal their land.”
‭‭II Chronicles‬ ‭7‬:‭14‬ ‭NKJV‬‬


The latest mayoral election results in New York City, as well as the gubernatorial election results in New Jersey and Virginia, show that we still very much have a spiritual battle on our hands. We still have people in power who are determined not only to disobey the God of the Bible, but also to try to tear down His plans (now, don’t worry, our God is undefeated, and no enemy can ever successfully thwart Him!). But I think about the parallels between our time now as well as in Ezra’s day. Although there are many, many differences between the two situations, the main similarity lies in the return of a large majority of the people to their roots. In Ezra’s day, it was a physical return to the land that God had promised their ancestors, and has continued to promise to his people throughout the generations. In our day, in 2025, it is a return to our country’s original values, economy, and governmental structure, as laid out by the Constitution. But as both Ezra’s prayer to the Lord Most High and our recent election results reveal, we still live in a fallen, sin-sick world that will only truly be healed and restored upon Jesus‘s return.

And like the Bible always does, there is yet a message of hope, found even in the book of Ezra:

“Now while Ezra was praying, and while he was confessing, weeping, and bowing down before the house of God, a very large assembly of men, women, and children gathered to him from Israel; for the people wept very bitterly. And Shechaniah the son of Jehiel, one of the sons of Elam, spoke up and said to Ezra, “We have trespassed against our God, and have taken pagan wives from the peoples of the land; yet now there is hope in Israel in spite of this. Now therefore, let us make a covenant with our God to put away all these wives and those who have been born to them, according to the advice of my master and of those who tremble at the commandment of our God; and let it be done according to the law. Arise, for this matter is your responsibility. We also are with you. Be of good courage, and do it.””
‭‭Ezra‬ ‭10‬:‭1‬-‭4‬ ‭NKJV‬‬


And, true to their word, they carried out this correction:

“And among the sons of the priests who had taken pagan wives the following were found of the sons of Jeshua the son of Jozadak, and his brothers: Maaseiah, Eliezer, Jarib, and Gedaliah. And they gave their promise that they would put away their wives; and being guilty, they presented a ram of the flock as their trespass offering.”
‭‭Ezra‬ ‭10‬:‭18‬-‭19‬ ‭NKJV‬‬


The chapter, and as such the book, closes by listing the names of all the individuals and lineages thereof who were indeed guilty but also followed through in their correction and repentance. They received God’s justice and allowed him to cleanse them.

“If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.”
‭‭I John‬ ‭1‬:‭9‬ ‭NKJV‬‬